Kick the Bucket List...

I couldn't figure out what a bucket list was until I watched the movie aptly named the Bucket List.

*ding* - the light went off....

It's a list of things that we want to do before we kick the proverbial bucket. Things we want to do before we die. For a lot of people, this usually involves some height thing.. (bungee jumping off a bridge, sky diving, rock diving... sort of diving... Like that is really you looking death in the face...)

But more importantly, it's a motivational tool we use to make sure that we accomplish the things on the list because they represent the most important things we wanna do in our lives...

And most of them have nothing to do with the most important things in our lives...

Sigh. Well - I surveyed 4 out of 5 close friends/family members and asked them what they would like on their bucket list. Aside from the usual suspects on the list (sky diving, bungee jumping...) there was - travel to exotic places, do something related to an unrequited talent (i.e., try out for America's Got Talent, or a broadway show) or something involving money (i.e., spend it all)...

Pay in mind - this is not an all inclusive list of things everyone would want to do - but I thought it was pretty representative, so this is a blog in generalities (kinda like all my other blogs - so forgive the preaching if this doesn't apply to you...)

Here's the thing - the most important things that you want to do should involve the people you love the most in your life... and I don't mean bringing them with you to these exotic places or giving them a shoutout when you're on TV for America's Got Talent.

It's the kind word you keep neglecting to give your child. The phone call you're gonna give your mom that you haven't done. The words of affection to your significant other, the flowers to your wife just because. These mundane things that seem so easy to do everyday - and yet we neglect to do them everyday. Everyday can be cause for you to do a bucket list. Everday could be your last. So the exotic things would be nice, but I'm sure Madagascar will not miss you, but your parents, spouse or children will. I'm sure the earth won't care if you're not plummeting towards it at high speeds, but a friend would.

I'm just saying... why so grandiose bucket list? I'm sure there are a number of things you have weighing on your heart that involve the people you love the most (admit it to yourself or not..) Make that your dang bucket list - and make the other things just thing you'd like to do...

It would be nice if I could make it to Rome or Milan, but I definitely need to tell my mom how amazing a mom she is, before I die.

Now - if you'll excuse me now, I'm gonna call my mom.